If Something Goes Down, Here’s What to Do
Accountability • Awareness • Repair
If a boundary is crossed, something feels off, or you need support, we’ve got a process for that.
The goal isn’t punishment. It’s resolution, growth, and safety for everyone involved.
Every Incident Report (IR) is reviewed seriously. We look at the actions, context, and responsibility of everyone involved.
What Constitutes a Violation
Not every uncomfortable moment is a violation, but when someone’s boundaries, consent, or safety are crossed, that’s when we act.
Below are examples of what may constitute a violation within the Dark Tantra Temple:
🔒 Consent Violations
Touching or engaging in any physical interaction without explicit consent.
Ignoring or overriding someone’s “no,” “stop,” or nonverbal signs of withdrawal.
Continuing a scene, play, or energetic exchange after consent has been revoked.
Coercing or pressuring someone into participation through manipulation, authority, or guilt.
🧠 Boundary & Emotional Violations
Disrespecting a stated personal or energetic boundary (verbal, emotional, or spiritual).
Using shaming, humiliation, or emotional tactics outside of negotiated play.
Violating someone’s confidentiality or privacy about what happens in Temple spaces.
⚖️ Safety & Ethical Violations
Engaging in unsafe play practices that risk injury or trauma.
Showing up under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
Acting in a way that disrupts the flow, safety, or respect of the container.
Harassing, stalking, or targeting another member inside or outside of Temple spaces.
If you’re unsure whether something counts, report it anyway.
We’ll help assess it together — with care, neutrality, and discretion.
How to Start an Incident Report
If you experience a violation at a Dark Tantra Temple event:
Important:
You must include the name of the person involved.
If we don’t know who it’s about, we can’t resolve anything.
What happens next
Your report goes directly to the host — Sir Pocketz.
A response form will be sent to the other person(s) involved to hear their side.
Both statements are reviewed by the hosts and any Dungeon Monitors and/or Temple Keepers who were present.
We look at what happened, how it was handled in the moment, and what resolution is possible.
You’ll be kept updated throughout the process.
Four Types of Resolution
You’ll be asked which of these you want — you’re not limited to one:
Accountability & Apology — acknowledgment and repair of harm.
Conversation & Clearing — a facilitated discussion between parties.
Further Education — reading, mentorship, or learning opportunities to promote growth.
No Contact — personal boundaries enforced within community spaces.
If both parties choose the same path, we move forward with that.
If not, the hosts will mediate to find the most appropriate resolution.
If no agreement can be reached, the case goes to the full admin team (hosts, Dungeon Monitors, Temple Keepers) for final review.
Our Commitment
This community is built on bold play, deep connection, and real healing.
That means taking care of each other, especially when things get messy.
Reporting something doesn’t make you difficult or dramatic.
It makes you responsible. It makes you part of the container.
If something happens, don’t sit on it.
We will hold it. Together.
🖤
— Sir Pocketz
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